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The News of The Oaks
Zhankoye dining room seating remains rearranged since Fall Equinox. Most of the rectangular tables form a large U, gussied up with tablecloths, candleholders, decorative gourds, etc. The regular Fun Table is no more (for now) but the "no talking business" tradition continues at the most popular table on the outside deck. The ZK dining room has been graced by an exhibit of Cleo's quilts for some months now. From queen size to single square size, each has a written commentary from the artist.
Women's Tea returns, sponsored by the Wicked Women's Group (Bonnie, Dianne, Indigo, Sophie, Stella). Twenty-some women gathered at Nashoba in mid-November, a time of many visitors. They shared personal stories, stories of women in community and generally enjoyed each other's company. The change of location from the kitchen-less Women's Livingroom in Oneida facilitated the goodies catering.
This year's Trade Off Game is shaping up much like last year's except with less money. Production has been down in some income areas and some expenses are up (LP gas, insurance, perhaps private schooling). There will be no OTRAs again this year, but there's lots of potential OPP. For the second year in a row, most economic planning is taking place in December and January instead of the more traditional October and November.
Our lower community income is a result of Twin Oaks doing less income work itself (and perhaps lower efficiency). Our sales to Pier 1 Imports are steady and non-Pier 1 hammock sales are way up (yea!). Retail sales (mailorder and internet) are breaking records every month.
Tofu has mostly recovered from last year's fire.
A new boiler plus some other improvements will
In November, 15 Oakers joined 15 others raising 30 trusses in two hours at Woodfolk House in Charlottesville. That's the activist household of ex- member Alexis and ex-Acorners Brian/Suwelo and Spot. Woodfolk and Demeter's Circle (ex-ies Jim and Shana) now have labor exchange arrangements with Twin Oaks. We help them; they help us. Dairy was blessed with four new calves one right after another. Calf names this year are Saints and Barbarians. Unfortunately, the crew hasn't found any barbarian names with the appropriate first letters. Names so far are Brannock, Anatolia, Nataraja, and Zachary.
Nashoba animal problems: a bat trapped inside the building caused much shrieking in the halls. Finally Antonina caught the beast with a towel. Another time, a miniature pig momma and four little piglets from who knows where wandered by Nashoba.
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The Sunrise SLG is again encouraging everyone to help fill up the composting toilet. There's space for everyone to contribute! Sunrisers enjoyed a fun ice skating trip in early December. They report that weekday afternoons this time of year at the Charlottesville Ice Park are great _ only $3 including skate rental, and the place is practically empty. Coming up soon: SLG bowling!
August was a big pneumonia month: two cows, two members, a Louisa librarian's dog, and another librarian's husband.
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Jonah: Born Nov 15, 2000
Attending the birth were Shakti, goddess mother of the baby, Nancy, our midwife, Topaz, new member and lay midwife herself, Abeja, ex-member and very old friend of Tom's. I remember floating, weightless and entranced in the hot tub for hour upon hour, having at last surrendered to the awesome power of my body and to the intensity of the experience. I labored all night long and pushed Jonah into the world at 7:11 am on Tuesday morning. I want to give my deepest thanks to Nancy and my birth team for a truly ecstatic birth and to Tom for being a loving and supportive partner to me in birthing our baby and beyond. Jonah has inspired in me a love like none I have ever known and my spirit soars with joy and thanks for his presence in our world. Giving birth was the most meaningful and profound experience of
my life and the energy of the people and of the house itself was the most
beautiful blessing. In an age where home birth is under such ruthless attack (especially
in the state of Virginia), it is vitally important that we express our gratitude
and support to midwives, and that we continue the struggle for our right to give
birth safely and naturally in our own homes.
Tom's Story When we visit Nancy in Richmond, she tells us that Thea is in real labor, 4 centimeters dilated. As we drive I fight the urge to roll down the window and scream that we are going to have our baby tonight. I look at Thea's glowing, laboring face and it is the most beautiful sight I have ever seen. My heart swells and I am more in love with her than ever. We get home and begin prepping upstairs Tupelo for the birth, brimming with excitement and energy. We try to take a nap.We talk. Thea remarks how easy and pleasant labor is going. Nancy arrives at 5 p.m. and Thea has dilated to six centimeters. The contractions have slowed down. I begin stimulating Thea's nipples to help bring on contractions. Throughout the night everyone gets a chance to simulate babies suckling on Thea's breasts. It begins a running joke about the fringe benefits of being on the birthing team. The birth team gathers around Thea to massage her body. We sing to her. We laugh with her. At some point Thea and I sneak into her room, close the door, and smooch. This is being too easy. A few more hours pass and Thea is up to eight centimeters. Nancy keeps checking at Thea's insistence and we believe that Thea's bag of waters is keeping him from being able to push on the cervix and help it fully dilate. Thea has been awake and in labor for 23 straight hours. She is getting tired. Her labor has slowed. The decision is made is to break Thea's bag of waters. This also starts a count down; the baby can only stay in the womb so long now. We slow dance, Thea and I, belly to belly in the upstairs living room. Nancy keeps telling us that the energy that got the baby in will get the baby out. At ten centimeters, the cervix is almost gone except for a lip that
keeps the baby's head from entering the birth canal. Thea is alone in
her labor. With each contraction Thea comes to the edge of the hot tub,
leans her head over the edge in silent concentration. I watch her face,
pulled tight, focused. I wait. When the contraction finishes, she leans
up in the water. "Good one", she says, then checks for the dissolution
of the lip. It's still there she announces before paddling away. At one
point Thea sees me at the edge of the tub. She says my name and paddles
over to give me a kiss. About five in the morning Thea discovers the lip is gone. Now out of the tub, she sits on the Swedish birthing stool. She pushes. She kneels on all fours. She pushes. She goes to her bed. She pushes. On her back, she pushes. On her side, she pushes. There is movement. I look into the dark tunnel and tell Thea I see the head. I don't really see anything, but I want to encourage her. Inside I am thinking this is too much; this is taking to long; Thea is hurting too much. I am behind Thea holding her as she pushes. I hold Thea in a partial squat not knowing she has lifted her feet from the ground, not knowing I carry her full weight. She has already passed what I could have tolerated. I'm exhausted, I'm scared, I want to do something to help, I want it to end. All I can do is hold on as Thea pushes. Jonah decides to be born. He starts down the birth canal. Thea pushes. Jonah's head is against the opening trying to stretch it wide, trying to slide out. His head crowns. Jonah's head disappears back inside. Thea pushes. Jonah pushes. Then there comes the moment where it seems time has stopped, taken a deep breath, and stepped into the future. A moment of bliss incomparable to anything I have ever experienced before. I am looking over Thea's shoulder. Between her legs is a large, round, crinkled mass. It is Jonah's head bravely pushing into the world. Nancy tells Thea to catch her baby. The rest of him slides out into Thea's hands. We are all crying. Jonah takes his first breath and is born. Having been a part of Jonah's birth, I am in awe of the courage and strength of his mother. I can not fathom how any man can witness the magic and ritual of labor and not come away with utter devotion and lifelong commitment to his partner. After this birth I could never love Thea less.
Shakti's Story Thea was in such a beautiful way, relaxed and laughing with Tom, Topaz , Abeja and the midwife. It was wonderful to watch this wonderful, strong woman be with the father of her child and go through her labor, repeating over and over, " I feel great!" These people are part of my tribe for always. I love them as family. I am the goddessmother of Jonah and Sage is Jonah's goddesssister. We look forward to growing up with him.
Topaz's Story The birthing space was beautiful. Candles were lit around the room. The hot tub was filled. The beautiful painting by Cosima and blessing-way alter, with pieces from all the women of the Community, brought energy of spirit and love, birthing experiences, and the strength, courage and confidence to carry Thea, Jonah and Tom safely through their passage. Thea was waiting for the cosmic trip to begin, to engulf her in the vastness of perfect wisdom and love that would guide her through her journey to that moment of pure joy and elation upon holding her brand new baby, wet, gorgeous and just as close to pure spirit as one can be! PATIENCE is the lesson now! Realizing that the process has a life of its own, and at least sometimes, it's not about control, not about "doing" anything, but about surrendering completely to love! The waves of labor overtook her as she labored in the water. With only the sounds of an occasional trickle of moving water and the deep, beautiful moans she made as her body opened for her child, she pushed with incredible strength and determination, knowing her body was designed perfectly to accomplish the task. He was vigorous and healthy! Blessed Be, yet another radiantly beautiful
cosmic miracle! We love you Jonah! Welcome Home... |
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